Why You Need To Give Up Some Control In Your Family

You can have control or you can have growth, but you can’t have both.-@CraigRoeschel

Have you ever had an argument with yourself?  Where you are the only person in the room and there are two voices in your head battling it out.  This is what happened to me when I heard the quote from Craig.

I love to have control.  I think it is because if something goes wrong I want to be the one to blame.  That way I don’t have to take fault in anyone else. This is what the argument was all about.  I didn’t even want to give up control of my thoughts on growth.  

The good news about having an argument with yourself is that there is a good chance you are going to win the argument.  Growth comes to us when we are able to get out of our own way. When it comes to personal growth you can have control to a certain extent.  You can control the habits you put in place every day like reading a good book, making time to be in the moment, or putting yourself in a situation to try new things.  

These are all things we should be doing every day for ourselves as people who want to realize our potential.  We need to set up the environment for growth but growth comes when we free ourselves to what comes in this environment.  Our job is to make a conscious effort to create the environment but live in the moment of that environment. To be open to growth with the situations and questions that come.

There is potential for more substantial growth when we help them understand the outcome needed and then let them go to work.

Never is this more true than with our children and family members.  So many times we give our children a task and give them every detail on how it should be done.  In some cases if they have never done the task before this is helpful and they may grow in a small way.  There is potential for more substantial growth when we help them understand the outcome needed and then let them go to work.

Let them think through how something can be done and give them the chance to think through it and try different ways of making it happen.  Let them be creative on how to get things done and come up with their own way. Create the environment where you are there to help and answer questions but get out of the way and let them go.  You be the assistant and give them the chance to grow.

The most important job as a family leader is to growth.  The power of potential in the ones you love is what will continuously take your family to the next level and change the world around you.  The only way to our potential is growth. For that growth we need to give up a bit of control. Make the effort to create an environment for growth but once you are in that environment give up some control to the power of their potential.

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